Cry, pray, beloved Namibia
Public views on religious doctrines as far as the ongoing ‘passion killings’ are concerned, obviously vary. And as much as there are many out there who do not pray [apparently], because they do not “believe in organised religions”, as a colleague always says, it is time to pray to whatever/whomever you believe in; Namibia has a problem.
Government efforts in partnering with religious leaders to stop the crude acts of violence should be encouraged. And whomever blames most of these acts of violence on the female victims, especially citing calculated moves by the latter, cannot be blamed. Take the ‘Dirty Kandeshis’ for instance. They prey on men for material gain and then leave them broken-hearted. Whatever happened to living in faith, love, holiness and modesty, as the good book says?
This is not to say the murders are the faults of the victims. No. No one has the right to lay hands on another, except for parents disciplining their kids. Point is, we are at war with ourselves and we are too “academic” to admit it. Many Namibian men behave like testosterone-enraged animals lacking human compassion. Today, police find a bloody knife in the kitchen while the killer tries to run. Tomorrow, a mother loses her daughter; another black widow joins the pack.
It must be hard to say goodbye knowing there is nothing wrong your daughter has done to lie six-feet under, lifeless, because a man could not take ‘no’ for an answer. Echoes of Bob Marley’s ‘No Woman, No Cry’ come in handy here. Whatever happened to the sunshine the weatherman predicted! How hard it must be to fake a smile with all these physical and emotional scars Namibian women keep tending.
Truly, life’s challenges will test the best of us, everyday. Along the way, we may stumble upon obstacles that will come between the paths we are destined to take. To follow the right path, we must overcome these obstacles, hence Government’s move to call up a prayer day as an effort to curb this evil needs public support, not silly criticism of fundamentalism. Things will not always go our way; your girlfriend may leave you for a richer man after struggling to put her through school; your fiancé might leave you at the altar after being there when they were nobodies, etc. However, there’s always a choice or two to take that would not involve chopping off another’s head like a village hen. We can focus on the fact that things did not go as anticipated and revel in our misery, or make the best out of the situation, knowing such are only temporary hold-ups and that there is a lesson to be learnt from them.
It’s an election year and if we, the citizens of this country, are not cautious, politics is likely to make us dance to how we shall solve gender-based violence in this country. Time stops for no one and if we allow ourselves to focus on the negative, we would be no better than countries like Iran, the Sudans, Nigeria... that have no peace, all because the evil continuous deeds in those nations work best for the ‘behind-the-sceeners’; often the powerful.
As they say, those who stay for only a short time in this world end up making a lasting impression not only in our lives but in our hearts too. Although we may not realise it at the time, they will make a difference and change our lives forever. In case you’re not yet moved by these killings, think of the two year-old girl who was raped and then killed at Macarabani West, Katima Mulilo, on 17th of last month. And that is just one of the many. People will give you ‘how-to’ guides on how to live your life but it all boils down to what you feel is right and that cannot be pursuing revenge for unrequited love.
Either support Government’s efforts by partaking in the prayer day this month or watch your relative die in the hands of a psychotic lover.