As we draw closer to the end of 2013, a very interesting aspect of life hit me yesterday that we many a times forget to acknowledge our faults.
What does this mean? I am referring to any given incident you and I have ever caused that have ended up making other people angry. You know, the kind of misunderstandings that turn our friends into enemies. I’m talking about the stuff that hurt and highly disappoint prominent, close, valuable and some significant persons in our lives, such as our parents, our senior elders, our spouses, our children, our employers or employees, or even that senior officer in our work environment.
As we face another Christmas and enter a brand new year, we will be making new resolutions. But can’t we stop for a few minutes and just ponder on the following thoughts and ask; what did we do correct? What did we do wrong in 2013?
For starters, did you know relationships contribute 100% to our wellbeing? Marriages, friendships, relationships in work places, in church circles, in daily life, in families, etc, all connect people. Could it be that we sometimes, somehow, drop the bucket in meaningful relationships and then end up regretting?
Well, should that be the case, then it’s now time we tried to mend those fallouts wherever possible. Allow me to show you some Biblical examples of people who made statements to acknowledge their faults, so we do not feel deflated when we have to recognise ours.
Jonah 1:12 says; “‘Pick me up and throw me into the sea,’ he replied, ‘and it will become calm. I know that “it is my fault” that this great storm has come upon you.”
Jonah, the prophet, had disobeyed and disappointed God, which led him to cause danger to many people’s lives on his ship. When he realised what had happened, he did not seek an opportunity to blame somebody else. He knew he was at fault.
Think about something or somebody you care about and are about to lose because you refuse to acknowledge you’re at fault. Consider whose fault it was. If it was yours, I encourage you admit your mistake and reconcile with your loved one as soon as possible.
Another Biblical example is in 1 Samuel 15:24, which says, “Then Saul said to Samuel, ‘I have sinned. I violated the Lord’s command and your instructions’.”
This is a story about King Saul who had been given specific instructions by God through his prophet, Samuel. This order was given through the relationship he had with God. The prophet brought him an assignment but he did not do exactly what God had asked of him. So the prophet confronted Saul about his actions. That’s when he then realised something was wrong. The problem was not with God or his prophet but with him, Saul.
So he admitted, “I have sinned.” In other words, he acknowledged his fault. It happens to so many of us when we make a mistake or cross certain lines in life. We mostly seek to blame others.
Even in the beginning, in Genesis 3:8-12; “Then the man and his wife heard the sound of the Lord, God, as he was walking in the garden in the cool of the day and they hid from the Lord, God, among the trees of the garden. But the Lord, God, called to the man, ‘Where are you?’ He answered, ‘I heard you in the garden and I was afraid because I was naked; so I hid.’ And he said, ‘Who told you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree I commanded you not to eat from?’ The man said, ‘The woman you put here with me — she gave me some fruit from the tree and I ate it’.”
Notice how Adam, the man, who had been placed in the paradise of heaven in the Garden of Eden to be a responsible and accountable individual was expected by God to be trustworthy. However, after deviating from his ways and then confronted by God, he immediately responded by blaming “the woman You gave me”, for making him sin.
If we ever want to be blessed and have harmonious relationships with others, no matter who they are, we have to acknowledge our faults, for respect and honour to be restored to us.
An American poet, Maya Angelou, once said; “I’ve learnt that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
Until next week, God bless you and remember, we only go through life once.