a lot of things have happened to me since I came out public about my sexual preferences.
I have been assaulted. I have been discriminated and I have been loved by the few that understand me.
However, after months and probably years of soul searching and reasoning, I have decided that Namibia should openly debate the issue of gays and lesbians without fear, favour or retribution.
There are many like myself out there. There are many that fear coming out clean. It is now becoming an underworld. As a former Mr Gay Namibia (2011/12), I have chosen to lead this debate by naming those why try to hide what is obvious.
I could write a book about this and I know the legal consequences that will come after the publication of the article.
I do not mean to hurt anyone or break families, but I mean good. It’s time we face the reality we are avoiding.
Last Friday, when I posted names of top homophobic Namibians, among them former President Sam Nujoma and Minister Jerry Ekandjo, I got over 500 responses where some even swore to kill me for labeling our leaders.
I wish people would know that we need to discuss homosexuality openly.
Our constitution forbids any discrimination based on individual differences and it does not exclude the rights of sexual minorities.
Swapo, my party, claims homosexual practice is a result of foreign influences and Minister Ekandjo has called on police recruits to ‘eliminate gays and lesbians from Namibia’. Growing up in the north, in Oshalembe, herding my parents’ cattle until I came to Windhoek in 1999 at the age of 14, I had managed to hide my sexual orientation for those 14 years and when I informed my parents, they even took me to a mental institution in Windhoek for check up.
There are people who have either been my sexual partners or are involved in gay activities clandestinely and while I have proof about it, I hope it ends on us looking deep into ourselves and accepting reality.
As I undertake this move, I know I will face fierce criticism and my life can be at risk but what I ask of Namibia is tolerance - tolerance on my person; tolerance on those who are involved in homosexuality and tolerance on the fact that we are all humans.
I repeat, I mean no harm or damage. My parents should still accept me, as should my whole family. We are human beings and are equal.
Most of the Oshiwambo men involved in homosexuality are getting married nowadays just to cover up or protect themselves from the community and keep homosexuality in darkness.
I have supplied ‘boys’ to well known personalities in Namibia, but I don’t want to be an agent. They should come out themselves.
They pay me N$1500 to N$2000 to bring the boys whom I get from Unam or Polytechnic of Namibia.
I call upon Government to allow for a national dialogue on the matter and take a position. To be or not to be. It is for us to reflect on our past, current and future. To my friends and some with benefits, you will feel unloved after this article. Some of you may feel like doing the unthinkable but take it from the way I have by looking into the distant future where we will now advocate for our sexual orientation to be heard and appreciated.
Some of you will ask me how safe am I after this, but with the consultations I have made and with the ‘boys’ that I have supplied to high figures, their back-up statements should defend me in case anything goes wrong, together with the other tangible proof that I have supplied to this newspaper.
We have withheld the list given and we would also want to emphasise that The Villager is not homophobic. On our website this week, we alllow the readers to vote on the whether we should reveal the list or not. You can also sms ‘Yes’ , if you agree with the list being released or ‘No’ if you dispute. We will take a position once we have more than 10 000 responses.