Identifying a poor or healthy self-image (part 2)
Good day faithful readers, greetings to you in the mighty name of Jesus Christ our Lord and coming King.
I am continuing where we left off last week on how to improve and transform our self-image. We spoke last week about the first six aspects.
Today, I want to share with you the last few aspects and I pray that you will be blessed, challenged and changed by the power of God.
The next few aspects are indicators of certain traits in people that hold and keep them down, prohibiting them from developing a great self-image.
7. The “Yes People” These are people who are too scared to offend others by saying ‘No’. So they say ‘Yes’ every time and end up making promises that are impossible for them to keep. Eager to get themselves liked by all and sundry, they are too scared to turn anyone down. Over-zealous to please, unfortunately, they over commit themselves and hence are unable to deliver in spite of their best intentions. As a result, they lose respect in the eyes of others as well as themselves, thus further lowering their self-image.
8. We also have people who experience an “uncomfortable feeling when alone” People with low self-image are not their own friends. In fact, they are their own worst enemies. They always need to talk to somebody, or have company. Left alone, they feel scared and uncomfortable. After all, they are alone with the enemy (themselves) who thinks poorly of them. They, in order to ward-off the uncomfortable feeling, will listen to loud music, or keep the television switched on, or may even take to abusing of alcohol and drugs.
9. We also then get people “unable to accept criticism” People with unhealthy self-image are always scared of their reputation and crave for recognition. Slightest words of criticism appear to them as a threat to their reputation among their peer groups. So, they usually take criticism as a personal attack on their position within the group and hence react negatively to even friendly criticism by getting angry or by throwing tantrums. These kinds of persons only react because they do not know how to respond to criticism.
10. There are also people with a “poor sense of humor” These are pranksters and practical jokers who always crack jokes and pass rude and insulting remarks at everyone around them, thinking that they are being very funny. They derive satisfaction and fake sense of superiority by hurting others. However, they cannot tolerate when the same happens to them. They cannot bear anyone laughing at them. They even react unnaturally at innocent laughter as they always suspect that they are the topic of the joke.
Since they do it themselves, they always feel others are doing it to them. Actually their self-image is so low that they consider themselves as the perfect victims of the pranks and jokes they play on others.
11. People who constantly “make excuses” Success and failure are personal responsibilities of every individual. People with low self-image are unable to take responsibility for their actions, whether it results in failure or success. They blame their circumstances, people around them and may be their own inadequacies for each of their failures. By making excuses, they try to protect their already low self-image. Surprisingly, even if they do achieve something, they are unable to accept the credit for the same. They exhibit excessive humility and pass on opportunities.
12. People who are “rebel outlaws” A dog barks when it needs attention while children act naughty or throw tantrums when seeking attention from their busy parents. Similarly, there are many individuals with low self-image who continuously need attention to feed their fragile egos. They actually never grow up. These persons crave for attention so much that they will join cults, evil practice groups like satanic and demonic cults and constantly run with the wrong crowds.
They will also reject accepted authority and be involved in acts such as robbing people, being rebellious and are usually involved in many criminal activities. Although unacceptable in society, such behaviour definitely gets them attention that they so desperately seek. In conclusion, did you know that self-image plays such an important role in a person’s life that all our problems and reasons of failure can be attributed to an unhealthy self-image? Apart from the manifestations of a low self-image we have spoken about in this series, there are many other character traits that have their seeds in unhealthy self-image such as being a compulsive liar, power fanatic, angry maniac, stress-aholic, chatterbox, spoilt brat, conceited looker, selfish person, etc. Next week, I will address how to develop a healthy, strong and positive self-image. Till then,
God bless you.