Since the debut of South African television programme Checkpoint’s ‘blesser’ and ‘blessee’ episode, Namibian social media has been abuzz with celebrities and everyday Shikongo’s airing their opinions on the modern day form of prostitution.
In Namibia the terms have heralded the dawn of a new era as the women and men engaging in this kind of social interaction have been rechristened to blessee from being previously called dirty Kandeshi’s and dirty Tangeni’s to the new term blesser.
Local music artists, Sunny Boy and Young T, took to the studio and recorded a song using the opportunity to tell the story from the side of the blesser.
Although having recorded the song, Young T and Sunny Boy where quick to point out that they are in no way blessers, and have never taken part in the act of blessing as it is something that only rich people take part in. “Hahahaahaa!! No, that is only for rich people, I just laugh at the memes and people’s reactions on social media,” said Young T.
Being a “blessee” is most common among young women from poor backgrounds who have resorted to exchanging sexual favours to mostly older men in exchange for an opportunity to live the luxury lives they see on television or only read about in magazines.
This is what prompted many people to brand it a modern day form of prostitution, while local artists such as Sunny Boy and Fishman see blessers and blessees as terms used to sugar coat being a sugar daddy or sugar mummy.
“This term is just being used to promote prostitution and adultery; it’s nothing good to be talking about. Do those talking about it think they are doing something good?” Fishman wanted to know.
Gospel artist D-naff also agrees with Sunny Boy, saying that blessings come from the creator above and no one else. “When I was younger I couldn’t afford to be a blesser, but when I did start making money it is not something I thought of doing. Right now it’s just a k*k group of people trying to make prostitution and immorality look cool” said D-naff.
Young women need to be encouraged to step away from the life of depending on men for monetary things and move towards building their own portfolios and into being able to spoil themselves. “I don’t like it as it encourages laziness and the idea of our women not being able to depend on themselves” said Patrick from PDK.
Living the life you want or dream off requires a lot of hard work and dedication. It is better to enjoy the fruits of your labour then having to swoop in and leach of someone else’s hard work even if they are a willing supplier. Women should be encouraged to be independent and self-reliant.